Head games.

Throughout life we meet a lot of people. Some we immediately gravitate toward, and others well…we don’t. One thing I have learned over the years is being true to who you are will always come back to help you through life’s obstacles.

Recently, as written in “Snap. Shot,” my youngest daughter had a seizure. Since it has been well explained as to what we encountered, that’s not today’s subject---today’s topic deals with “head games.” Now for many of us, we see this as a negative. But as I see it, it’s really very positive. This past week we have been very fortunate to re-connect with many friends, who, due to very busy lives we have lost touch. What’s very cool about re-connecting is trying to realize why we drifted. Was it something we said? Was it something we did? More important, did they find someone they enjoyed being with?
This is what internal head games are all about.

What we learned---as many friends “contacted” us---was no one knew why we stopped seeing one another. All of our concerns were unjustified as it turned out that “life took over.” It just happens.

This past weekend my wife was out of town with one of our daughters---it was a cheerleading competition. The entire week before, she had devoted her life to our youngest daughter, and now she was able to spend time with the girls---she excels at both. She, however, had more fun with the “older girls”---guaranteed. I knew she would enjoy the time she was going to have with them, but nothing like what I heard when she came back.

She knew these women from the neighborhood but had never really spent much time with them. They have their friends, she has hers, and it was a chance weekend that brought them together. It was as if the stars aligned and she went from a passing “hello” to really “engaged” talk. Although I don’t have specifics, it was a lot different than she thought it would be. They talked, they laughed, they bonded--- most important, they shared. These were not the head games we all know where cheap chatter is the norm---this was real. Six women discussing their lives. What did they have in common? Their daughters? Husbands? Jobs? No, they had the desire to talk about life and felt connected enough to do it with people they really didn’t know all well. (In other words, Big Chill meets Breakfast Club for all of those who remember these movies.)

The photo above is from an exhibit at the Smithsonian Institution. I am not sure which building it was in, but when I saw it I knew this was a very fun and unusual photo. I was not disappointed when I saw the outcome. Similar to the head games people play, you can always find something “real” about the person who is playing them. All you have to do is find a real point of interest and the history of the head games are put to rest.

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